Once they met their former husband and realized that they could not live without him? Want to start all over again and become a family again? It is a common desire, which our today’s article will help to realize. We will tell you whether it is possible to return a man after a divorce and whether it is worth it at all. You will learn what to do if he has not yet found another woman, with common children and rivals. But most importantly – you can avoid the mistakes that most ex-wives make when trying to return a loved one.
Is it possible to return the ex-spouse and whether to join the same river twice
If your husband went to another, psychologists say, this does not mean that he does not love his wife. Perhaps he was tired of monotony and wanted vivid sensations. In this case, you need to understand whether he has feelings for you. This will help our other article, which contains signs that her husband fell out of love. If they take place in your situation, it is better not to fight for a common future, release the man and start a new life with another person. But in the presence of feelings in both, we can safely act.
Good luck can smile and those who have children together. Your former passion will regularly see your child and you, take advantage of this. Create the illusion of a real family, remember the happy moments, make him compliments. This will cause him pleasant memories and may even regret leaving.
If the separation happened unofficially (there has not yet been a divorce) and your former half does not seek to speed it up, this is a good sign: there is a high probability that the relationship will resume. After the dissolution of the marriage is much harder, because the parents of both are likely to be against entering into the same river twice. They will dissuade a man that will certainly affect his decision.
Also consider whether to go back to the past. Imagine that you will spend your precious time, but nothing sticks together … Ready to admit your mistakes, work on yourself, listen to your husband, make contact with him? If yes, you have a chance. But for those who are afraid of difficulties, it is easier to build new relationships in which there will be no quarrels, lies and betrayal.
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What to do to return the ex-husband
First of all, you need to analyze your behavior, to understand what mistakes were made in the relationship. Followed by:
- Apologize, not only internally, but also externally. Create another image that will not remind the former of the past. Were modest – become more relaxed and vice versa.
- Love yourself. It is important to raise your self-esteem, not to focus on the shortcomings, and focus on the merits.
- Come to harmony of soul and body. Stop suffering, take care of yourself – go to yoga, pool, gym. Start listening to classical music, go to exhibitions, to theaters and museums. The former must see that he has lost. You should look better than his new passion (if it already exists).
- Pull yourself together. No need to regret the lost time, complain about how badly without him, especially him, you need to remain calm. This will certainly hurt the man. In this case, you should not ignore the male help, if you need it.
- Flirt a little with others. Start flirting with cute guys in front of mutual friends. You can even have a little intrigue, and it is important that your ex-husband find out about her. It is very likely that it will cause jealousy, even if there is no feeling (male owners by nature). In this article you can find details of how to flirt with a man. You will learn what this term is, why it is needed, learn a few basic techniques.
These 5 steps must be taken, otherwise you will have to wait forever.
Here you can find the answer to the question: why does a man ignore a woman? We have collected the main reasons.
If the ex-husband returns, in order not to destroy the new relationship, you need to learn the secrets of a happy family life. You will learn how to establish a dialogue with your beloved.
Behavioral Tips if he hasn’t found anyone yet
If the former passion still has no one, sharply rush into his life – start making phone calls, ask for friendly advice and help around the house, pretend that he is your only support. Put on pity that you have a very difficult time. You need to fix the crane – call it. The task is to create a trusting and friendly relationship. In the process of communication, constantly remind about the good that was between you. In no case do not affect the cause of the gap and do not blame each other for this.
Another very important to establish contact with his relatives. Never been friends with mother in law? Find a common language with her, it will pleasantly surprise the former partner and make you think. Tell her about the son all the best, if she sympathizes with you, then she will certainly begin to put pressure on him (hinting at the fact that he would be better off with you).
How to be if you have children
Do not use children in their games, but you can focus on them. Try to meet with the spouse "retired" more often under the pretext of communicating with the child. He will feel how good it is to have a full-fledged family when he is loved, valued and awaited at home. So he will have less time to search for a new girl that you only need.
Use this time to the fullest: talk more with a man, joke, do not load him with everyday issues. He should be easy in your presence.
How to revive the old relationship, if there was a competitor
The first and most important task is to make friends with your ex-husband and his new passion. This will help to explore its shortcomings. Find the same problems in yourself – quickly get rid of them.
If you can meet with him separately, then on a "date" tell him that he looks somehow tired, unhappy. This would bring him to the idea: what if it was different with you? Correct his tie and tell him that he is not very beautifully tied, hint that he has a badly ironed shirt, a suit is not cleaned, he has rubbed his shoes to shine. Offer your help, only unobtrusively.
Come to the meeting, if it can take place, with a bouquet of flowers. He will ask what it is – say that you presented a new fan, and you do not know whether it is worth starting a relationship with him. If the ex-spouse has any feelings for you, he will certainly respond, for example, he will be jealous (trying to find out exactly who made such a gift).
If the man himself does not want to start a relationship with you again, you can forget about the past and look for a new fan. A separate article on the site will help you to fall in love with a guy. It answers the questions: how to conquer it, what to say, what not to do.
In this video, you can immediately see the real psychologist, giving really wise and useful tips that make you think:
What you should not do – the main mistakes
- call the present girl or wife of the man;
- to tell the child nastiness about the father;
- asking to give you a second chance, this is humiliating for a woman !;
- to say to the forehead that they would like to come together again;
- blaming him for having parted;
- reproach parents for poor parenting;
- to say that they never met anyone better;
- immediately agree to the offer to meet as "friends."
Tips in this video will help not to miss your, perhaps the only chance, and bring her husband back:
Prayers and conspiracies to help
If the former spouse doesn’t pay attention to you, you can pray. Here are some prayers:
- You (name) walk the world, not knowing how to live without me. In the morning it will become completely unbearable for one, cold, lonely, boring. Come to his wife, one in front of the road – home. Go back to the servant of God (your name), and rejoice with her. Let it be. Amen".
- My Lord you are the savior, I place all my hopes on you, I ask for the help of the Most Holy Mother of God. I want my husband (name) to return to the family in order to live happily ever after. Reunite us, let us cleave to each other forever. Amen".
- Have pity on me a sinner (name), Most Holy Theotokos. Give us love (your name), and give us luck so that we can live safely, in happiness and health. As the river flows and never ends, so let our family be together forever. Amen".
- The crown of the queen and the king crowned us, the servants of God (her name and husband). We swore eternal love to live to the end of our days together. Holy Mother of God, let us fulfill our promise. Bring your loved one home. We fasten our union with magic, I can’t wait. Amen!". The words are recited on a photograph of a woman who has taken her husband away from her family. Around should be lit candles. It is necessary to repeat the text 3 times, then the photo is burned and thrown away.
If you do not believe in mysticism, it is better not to turn to otherworldly forces.
The best way out is to live peacefully without him, hinting that he can return to your life at any time and that there is a chance for a renewal of relations. For everything to work, he must understand who and what he lost after parting with you.