Thinking about consulting a psychologist? In this article, we will share with you things that your therapist probably will not tell you about psychotherapy, the treatment of mental illness or your profession.
Our goal is not to scare you away from therapy attempts – we believe that everyone should try it! But to help you understand that psychotherapists are people too. It is always better to be fully informed and educated before starting any treatment.
1. I can talk about you and your business with others.
As a rule, a professional consultant strictly limits the number of conversations about his clients with others. Some will only do this with professionals, for the sole purpose of getting a second opinion or advice on how best to help you. But others, less qualified, can share the details of your case with non-professionals or their partners. Perhaps it will comfort you that almost every expert who does this does not mention your name.
2. If I work more than 10 years, I heard things worse
Some people who start counseling for the first time are wary of sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings or their life experiences. Because they are afraid to shock the therapist with outrageous details. However, if the psychologist has been practicing for more than 10 years, he probably had a great chance to hear all this. Very little of what you report can shake a professional.
3. Perhaps I went to this profession to correct myself first of all
It is no secret that some therapists (regardless of the particular profession) took to the field to better understand themselves in the first place. Students of the same postgraduate class can usually identify those people who are trained to correct themselves. This does not mean that these students do not become great psychologists, just in this career field, a large proportion of people with their own mental health problems.
4. Not everything you say to me is strictly confidential.
The confidentiality of therapy is not absolute. If you are talking about illegal activities, cruel treatment of children, households, the elderly, or neglect, want to harm yourself or others, the law may require the consultant to report you to the police. However, each practitioner is different, so you should clarify these limitations with your consultant before starting to raise such topics.
5. I say, “I understand,” but not really
Many psychologists have a set of phrases that they will use if necessary, one of them is “I understand” (or some of their variations). The truth is that no one can truly understand your experience except yourself. Your adviser did not live your life, childhood, did not survive your grievances and losses – no one survived. Only you can truly understand yourself. And an expert will help you with this.
6. Carrying is sometimes a two-way street.
The concept of transference is used to describe the patient’s feelings that he has for the past significant figure in his life (often the parent), which are placed (or transferred) to the therapist. Psychologists also have these feelings, called countertransference, to their clients. Professionals know how to properly handle them outside the therapy session. Nonprofessional ones can break the boundaries of the therapeutic relationship and try to deal directly with the client.
7. Some people think that we are going to therapeutic practice for money, but this is far from the truth.
Most advisers are not as high paying as some people think.
8. Change is difficult. Much harder than many assume
By the time most people come to therapy, they have already tried to change certain aspects of their lives in order to feel better. Usually this does not work (this is the reason why they want to try therapy). Although psychlogy can really help chart a more effective path leading to long-term change, it is not guaranteed. All the hard work will continue to be done by you, and will require a great deal of will and effort from you.
10. Some people use us as a paid friend.
Psychotherapy is an active process that requires effort to understand past thoughts and behavior in order to better influence changes in future ones. However, many clients go to the consultation and spend the entire session, talking about what happened to them last week. Although it is good to devote 10-15 minutes to the exchange session, most of your time should be used to work on the changes.