Probably everyone knows to let go of the past, but how can this be done? Past grievances, suffering, failed relationships – all this is a burden that will constantly drag you down until you get rid of it. Of course, this is not easy to do, and it cannot be done in a jiffy, but … This can be done by working on yourself for a long time. If you want to improve your life, and devote yourself to the present day and future, and not to the past, here you will find the answer to how this can be done.
How to let go of a past life?
How to let go of a past life? There is a whole step-by-step process:
Understand that the past is also an experience.
Sometimes we feel shame and regret for what we once did. This feeling does not help to let go of the past. Why it happens? The fact is that our moral principles have changed in some time, and now what used to seem acceptable to us is no longer so. So is it worth blaming yourself for it? Naturally not. Because it turns out that you feel shame because of the fact that you continue to develop. Not very logical, agree?
Past is past
Of course, this sounds rather banal, but this is true – the past is what has already passed. Accordingly, you can not change it. What is left to do? Just take it and let it go. When you realize this, it will be much easier.
There is a good exercise – write a list of what you would like to redo. Remember the situations from the past in which you would now act differently. What exactly would you do wrong? Why would you change your mind? This exercise is quite a good and effective psychological course. It will help you analyze your past mistakes, and make sure that you do not repeat them again.
Keep your moral values
If thoughts of the past do not give you peace, use one trick. Learn every time when a negative thought comes from the past, replace it with a positive and productive one. You will see that in time you will realize that you can guide almost every thought. And the negative from the past will no longer have power over you.
Naturally, it is very difficult to constantly mentally return to those situations that have caused you pain, but for complete “treatment” it is simply necessary. The next time you will remember the most unpleasant situation for you from the past, try to look at it as if from the side. Imagine that this is not happening to you, and you are just watching the situation. This will help you to drop all emotions and see the whole situation more soberly.
Obvious need to take
Think, if you reproach yourself for past mistakes in your life, will it help you feel better? Definitely not. That is why you need to do what psychologists call the “general cleaning of consciousness.” Stop lying to yourself, disassemble all unpleasant situations for you, analyze them. Understand what exactly brought you discomfort, what you feel and what causes these feelings. Realizing the cause of your suffering, you will be one step closer to getting rid of them.
Turn the old page
Once you understand the past situations and accept them, you can turn this old page of your life. Understand that now you are not the same person you were before. Moreover, those events from your past life also helped you to become who you are now. Perhaps, then it was a necessity for you to learn something and realize something.
Let yourself relax
You have just realized that what has tormented you for many years is finally gone. Naturally, it will be difficult to immediately begin a new life. Give yourself the opportunity to relax and enjoy the peace you now feel. It’s like learning a sport — you can’t swim perfectly, you need time to learn. Similarly, with life. Don’t push yourself, still ahead!
Love yourself again
The last, but probably the most important stage in letting go of the past is to love yourself again. Listen to your desires and your intuition, be a good and loyal friend for yourself, respect yourself, love yourself … And, most importantly, never again think that you are the source of all problems. This is not true. Find books on this topic, watch motivating films … And, most importantly, realize that now you are free from the burden of the past, and ready to live on.
Let go of the past – you get the future
“Let go of the past – you will get the future” – the truth that everyone knows, but not everyone follows it. If you want something new in your life, then, first of all, you will have to let go of something old. You will see, having said goodbye to past grievances and situations, something good and new will surely come into your life. You have already made room for it!