A baby appeared in your family, and everything was fine, as long as the only dish for him was mother’s milk. But the child grows, his diet changes, and with it sometimes there are some difficulties. The kid suddenly starts to be naughty while eating, eats badly or refuses to eat at all. Sometimes in adults, faced with a similar problem from day to day, they simply do not withstand the nerves, and they start using persuasion, or even threats and punishments, to force their child by force, only reinforcing their aversion to food.
If your family has a similar problem, you first need to understand reasons for the child’s refusal to eat, maybe you are just overfeeding the baby. In addition, I will try to tell you how to make the process of nutrition more attractive for the child, how to overcome his capriciousness and unwillingness to try this or that dish. The main thing when communicating with a baby in such moments is to have patience and endurance, and then you can definitely find a way out of this situation.
The reasons for the child’s refusal to eat may be many, and they are not always associated with antipathy to a particular dish. Poor appetite This may be due to a child’s illness, malnutrition, lack of regimen, or the presence of all kinds of fears. Consider the reasons listed in more detail.
Often, parents come to the doctor’s or psychologist’s office and complain that the child is not eating well, whereas, because of their backs, a well-fed child peeps out. When it comes to the amount of food that makes up a one-time portion of a baby, it turns out that it would be enough for an adult. It is not surprising that the child in this case refuses to eat. And if you still managed to break the resistance of the baby, it can adversely affect both his psyche and his physical health. On the one hand, he will be forced to put up with a clear injustice, which in the future may lead to his complete non-resistance to various difficulties and lack of initiative. On the other hand, pretty soon you will have to deal with another problem – overweight your baby. In a word, in everything there should be a measure. Children, as a rule, themselves perfectly determine the amount of food they need, so when child refuses to eat up Portion to the end, do not force him to do it.
Parents are always obliged to remember that a child is several times smaller than an adult, so he needs less food. Children’s portions should be small, but at the same time include all proteins, fats and carbohydrates, as well as vitamins that are necessary for the normal functioning of the body of the baby.
Sometimes child’s poor appetite stems not only from improper nutrition, but also due to the lack of regimen. They feed him not at a strictly appointed time, but when it is necessary, therefore it is difficult for him to orient in time and tune in to eating. For example, the child only broke out or got up after sleeping, and his name is at the table. The opposite situation – the baby wanted to eat, but nothing is ready yet. Children who are forced to eat not according to the regime become nervous, capricious, sleep poorly, and sometimes because they are hungry, so pretty soon parents turn to specialists, believing that the child is sick, while it’s enough just to introduce and maintain a certain family day regimen, and already after a short time, to the next meal, the child will experience a feeling of hunger and, accordingly, he will have an appetite.
Once I was approached by parents who claimed that their little baby eats nothing at the table. In the conversation it turned out that in this family it was customary for a vase with various sweets to be always on the table: cookies, sweets, halvah. The fact is that Dad was a terrible sweetheart, and by the nature of his professional activities, he could work at home, and therefore, therefore, his favorite delicacies were always in a prominent place. At home there was also a child whom the grandmother looked after. It turns out that the kid, imitating his dad, constantly chewed something sweet for a day and knocked down his appetite. Yes, and the kind grandmother often treated him with chocolate, or candy. That is why at lunch or dinner he almost did not touch anything. I advised my parents to give the child a sweet only at a time strictly defined by the regime and hide a vase with cookies and sweets away. Of course, for the sake of the baby’s health, he had to sacrifice his habits and his father, but the parents decided to strictly adhere to my recommendations. The adults talked to the grandmother and took her word that she would treat her grandson only at breakfast or lunch, and sweets were removed to the lockable key cabinet. In the early days, the parents had to endure a real attack from the side of the child, who was capricious and demanded delicacy. Where caress, and where and rigor parents managed to convince the kid that from now on he will receive his share of chocolates and cookies only after the main meals. Soon, the child returned to normal appetite, which had a positive effect on his physical well-being and mood.
My advice favorably affected the father of the baby. Since he could no longer freely regale before the eyes of the child, he began to do it in secret and in much smaller quantities. This could not but reflect on his figure, since he had to abandon the lion’s share of sweet and flour products.
Often poor appetite appear in too impressionable children under the influence of various horrible stories they heard from their peers or from adults.
So, in my practice there was a case when a five-year-old girl was brought to me, who never had problems with appetite, and suddenly she became bad eating. Attempts by her parents to somehow influence her, to make her eat ended, as a rule, with the fact that she began to just choke on food. We played with the girl in various games, and in the process of interacting with her, I found out that a few days ago, in her presence, a neighbor told her mother how a woman choked on a fish bone and died. The story was most likely fictional, since exaggerations were clearly visible in it, and extraordinary details stood out. It is not surprising that a susceptible child began to fear at the very first glance at the fish, and then at the food in general. As a result, my parents and I had to work hard to restore the girl’s previous appetite.
Try to protect yourself in advance from such situations. Do not let anyone, as well as do not tell blood-curb stories associated with food and meals with children, because the consequences of this may be the most unpredictable.
It also happens that the child begins to act up at the table after attending kindergarten. In most cases, this is due to its natural inclination to imitate children and adults from their surroundings. Therefore, there is nothing surprising in the fact that in the voice of your child you hear completely unusual notes.
So, for example, at one time I had a daughter of my friends who urgently left for a month on a business trip. She ate well in the first days of her stay with me, but once at dinner, instead of eating her portion, she began picking with a fork in a plate. When I asked, “What is the matter?” – the girl answered, obviously imitating someone from the group, that she would not have a side dish, and would swallow the cutlet, and she would take sweets. Without thinking twice, I just let her out of the table, saying that I needed time to create a new menu for her, which would include sweets, ice cream, and cakes, and she would let her starve for a day or two, because earlier with her order I just can’t handle it.
My guest thought about what I had said for about ten minutes, then sat down in silence and ate my entire dinner without a trace. Apparently, the girl reasoned like this: the weekend is near, and it is not very healthy to spend them on a starvation diet, especially since it is not at all clear when this new menu will be ready. We had no more problems with nutrition.
In other words, if you see that the child refuses to eat, not because of feeling unwell or for any serious reason, but only because of imitation of someone in the group, do not be afraid to leave it without lunch or dinner. Surely your baby will quickly understand his mistake and try to correct it.
Everything is much more serious if the reluctance to eat is associated with the poor state of health of your baby. It is a decrease or lack of appetite often the first sign of a disease. If you have noticed a similar feature before the child, then in no case force the baby to eat in these moments. It is known that at the very beginning of the disease the body is struggling hard with the disease, so all forces should be directed only to this struggle. Digestion, in turn, also requires a certain amount of energy, so the less a child will eat, the faster the body will cope with the disease. In such a situation, give him as much fluid as possible, which will help remove all toxins from the body.
During the illness itself children have appetite reduced or absent. Of course, the baby also needs food during this period, but do not try to feed it at all costs. Portions should not be large, and food – fatty and difficult to digest. In addition, when the baby feels better, he will surely ask you for something
Anorexia nervosa is characterized by a child’s complete rejection of food. Any attempt by parents to feed him ends in violent protest, and even vomiting. Most often this disease is manifested in adolescent girls, but it can also occur at a younger age. As the disease progresses, you may notice that the child loses weight dramatically. And no matter how you convince him that there is all the same, it does not lead to anything. The child may even pretend to eat vigorously, while after eating he causes vomiting in himself to get rid of what he has eaten.
Over time, the mere thought of food becomes unbearable for him, and the mention of it often causes vomiting. As a result, such changes can occur in the body, and weight loss will become so significant that food intake will be impossible not only for psychological reasons, but also for physiological reasons: the stomach volume decreases, digestion of food slows down, and hunger bouts completely disappear.
Anorexia is a long-term and serious illness, and to avoid it or to notice it at an early stage of development, parents should be more attentive to look after their children.
Unfortunately, the causes of anorexia nervosa are still not fully understood. In adolescents, it often begins with a conscious diet aimed at losing weight. In young children, anorexia, as a rule, is caused by the causes of a mental nature. Perhaps not the last place is occupied by all kinds of fears.
You may suspect this disease in a child when you notice his strange behavior at the table. The kid may overly crush the food, long time poking around in the plate, hiding the food, whereas he hadn’t had such features before. Sometimes anorexic suffers from strange gastronomic preferences. For example, he does not refuse to eat only one or two dishes, while earlier he had much more preferences. In addition, abrupt weight loss may be a sign of anorexia nervosa. As the weight decreases and the malnutrition of the baby increases, the following symptoms are observed: weakness, fatigue, dizziness, constipation, and sometimes a decrease in blood pressure and a sharp heartbeat. Very often, these children have low body temperature, they feel numbness in the limbs.
Anorexia treatment should be carried out in two directions: you need to take care of both the physical and mental state of the child. On the one hand, you need to restore power. On the other hand, to inspire the child that he is needed by others, that he is loved, that he has a completely attractive appearance, to convince him that food is necessary for everyone, since he is a source of vital energy. And so that the recovery proceeds more successfully, it is desirable for the child to change the familiar atmosphere at least for a while.
Appetite perversion rare and most common in children under three years of age. In this case, the child refuses to eat regular food, preferring to it inedible items. It should be noted that children with mental retardation or any mental disabilities are most likely to be affected by this disease. So, babies prefer hair, paper, wool, water-based paints, and children a little older enjoy sand, earth, animal feces, leaves and
According to experts closely involved in this problem, pica – This is primarily a behavior disorder. The reasons for the latter are not fully understood. There is an assumption that the disease occurs due to a violation of the formation of behavioral skills or stress. Therefore, a calm atmosphere should be created in the family. A child should not feel lonely or abandoned. But appetite distortion can also occur as a reaction to a lack of inorganic substances in the diet (for example, iron and zinc salts) or other essential trace elements.
In short, to cure a child, it is necessary to determine and eliminate the causes of what is happening. If appetite distortion has arisen due to stress, which the child experiences for one reason or another, it is necessary to eliminate traumatic circumstances. You can also positively influence a child by restructuring his behavior, encouraging desired behavior and punishing negative behavior. This method usually gives good results.
The parents of a two-year-old baby appealed to me with a complaint that the child began to eat earth, sand. During the conversation, I found out that a critical situation had developed in the house, since the young couple had to live with their wife’s parents, who do not miss the chance to blame the son-in-law for his inability to adequately support his family. From here arise numerous scandals, and, of course, their child often becomes a witness. I recommended the parents of the baby to change the situation and create a more relaxed atmosphere in the family. In addition, she advised all positive actions of the baby, including the use of normal food, to reward with praise and affectionate stroking. In this case, the desire of the baby to try again the earth or other inedible objects was strictly necessary to stop.
Pretty soon, the child got rid of his bad habit, he realized that as soon as he pulls the earth into his mouth, they begin to scold him, in other cases – they caress and praise him, so after a short time he completely changed his behavior. Of course, the result would not have been so fast if the parents had not changed their place of residence, however, the restructuring of the baby’s behavior bore fruit.
One more cause your child to refuse food may become rumination, or the so-called gum. This disease is characterized by secondary chewing, or chewing of food returned from the stomach back to the mouth. If your child constantly belches in the mouth and then partially swallows semi-digested food, you should definitely show it to a specialist. Fortunately, this disease is quite rare and occurs in children from 3 to 12 months. You can suspect a rumination of your baby if he often takes the same position: the back is arched, the abdominal muscles are tense, the head is thrown back. After regurgitation, as a rule, part of the food spits or flows out of the mouth, and part of it is chewed again and swallowed. Sometimes the gum passes on its own, but in most cases requires treatment.
Sometimes the cause of the disease is the ignorance of parents, how, when and how much to feed the baby. Some mothers too often feed the baby and at one time try to feed him huge doses of milk.
Rumination can also be caused by insufficient stimulation of the child. In other words, if you do not have close contact with the baby, you talk a little and play with him, then he not only disrupts the formation of a relationship with you, but also increases the risk of this disease.
Rumination may also arise in response to a stressful situation in the family.
Chewing gum is terrible because the child’s normal diet is disturbed. He looks exhausted, loses weight, is naughty from hunger between the moments of regurgitation. In addition, if you do not treat the disease, it can lead to dehydration, developmental delays due to improper diet, and even death.
Rumination is very difficult to cure, so a sick child in most cases requires hospitalization. If the treatment of the baby is at home, you should make his diet in such a way that it contains a large amount of protein, which is necessary to maintain growth processes. Do not forget that the baby needs your stimulation during this period in order to develop normally both physically and mentally. You must strengthen the relationship with your child, which will certainly have a beneficial effect on his condition. Be sure to take it on your hands during and immediately after feeding. Attention given to the child will help prevent regurgitation. In addition, provide your child a friendly and relaxed atmosphere in the family. At the same time during the treatment the child should be under the supervision of a pediatrician.
Is it worth the tragedy of the fact that the child eats bad?
Very often, parents, who do not have sufficient restraint and desire to treat their child with due attention, in order to quickly solve the problem of feeding him, resort to forceful methods of influence or to intimidation. Remember, acting threats and punishments, you can cause great harm to your child. From such a kid in the future an indecisive, intimidated person may turn out, constantly doubting his own abilities, afraid to once again draw attention to himself.
Probably, every adult person since childhood has an antipathy towards certain products, which has arisen without seemingly obvious reasons. Try to remember why you, for example, do not like semolina or rassolnik. It is possible that a picture will come to your mind, like a grandmother or a mother in a fit of desire to feed your child by all means stuffing you another spoon with this dish, which was the result of your dislike for it. Sometimes we can’t even remember why we don’t like the taste of a particular dish. Perhaps your children will not remember this, but until the end of their days they may save their dislike for porridge, which they were fed so intensely in childhood.
Let’s try to avoid such pitiable consequences of parental zeal. If a the child ate nothing at dinner, this is not a tragedy. Perhaps the baby just did not have time to get hungry or intercepted something before eating.
Do not insist that he certainly ate, move the plate away from him. At dinner, he will definitely eat everything.
Many scientists come to the conclusion that you should not force feed a baby, even a baby. So, if it’s time for normal feeding, and your baby doesn’t even think about waking up, don’t wake him up. Wait, when he opens his eyes and demands from you his portion. Otherwise, the baby will wake up much less than usual. As a result, he can neither sleep properly nor get enough food, so he will be capricious, and it will take you all day to calm him down.
In other words, you should get rid of the feeling as quickly as possible that if the baby doesn’t eat in time everything that lies on the plate in front of him, he will surely die from dystrophy. This will not happen because the child is not as helpless and fragile as we think. Well, if he really feels hungry, he will find an opportunity to ask you to eat.
So, for example, famous teachers Nikitin, who had seven children, were of the opinion that in no case should a child be fed by force. Once one of the guys got sick. For three days he did not eat anything, and his parents did not make any attempts to feed him, only watered him with water. As a result, the children’s body was able to overcome the disease. The child, for the first time, took some food only on the fourth day of illness.
As a rule, in the second year of life, a child who used to eat everything that lay on his plate in front of him becomes very discriminating. On the one hand, this is due to the fact that it takes significantly more time to feel hungry. On the other hand, the child begins to feel himself a personality, an independent person who has the right to his preferences and choices. During this period, baby tastes can change almost every week. Today, he gladly absorbs a dish, and the next day he doesn’t look at it at all.
The task of parents in this situation is to maintain complete calm and endurance. Of course, you can be annoyed by the fact that you specially prepared a particular dish for the baby, spending time and money on it, and he suddenly did not want to eat it, whereas before such problems did not arise. It’s just that your baby explores this world and wants to feel different tastes, so he refuses the food he knows and requires something new.
Of course, it is quite difficult to cook several dishes at once for one feeding. This, in general, is not required, but if you want your child to eat well, then try to make his diet as varied as possible.
Many children, turning to adult food, begin to suddenly abandon milk. Do not force the child to drink the daily rate of this valuable product by all means if he does not want it. Otherwise, you only inspire him aversion to milk for the rest of his life. Wait a few days. If the child still continues to refuse milk, do not insist, but try to replace it with something equivalent. Babies may like products such as kefir, cheese, cottage cheese. Over time, with your proper behavior, the child will again ask for milk, and there will be no aversion to this drink. The same applies to other products.
If a child actively refuses any dishes, do not force him to eat, but take, as they say, a time-out. After some time, the baby is likely to return to old preferences.
Many parents are afraid in food to rely solely on the tastes of their child, believing that he is not mature enough to choose the food he needs. Far from it. As a rule, children and without the help of adults are able to create a diet that would satisfy all the needs of a growing organism. This is fully proved by the famous pediatrician Clara Davis, who decided to find out what the diet of children will be if they are guided by their preferences in the diet, if they are provided with a wide selection of various dishes.
For the experiment, she selected three children aged eight to ten months who did not try anything except breast milk, so they did not have any addictions in food. During the feeding, six to eight plates with simple healthy food were exhibited in front of the children: vegetables, fruits, cereals, meat, black bread, milk, etc. The babies were helped only when it was clear what they wanted to try. So, for example, when a child tried to grab something from a plate with his hand, he was given a teaspoon of this dish.
The experiment revealed several very important circumstances. So, the kids who were given a choice of different foods, developed well. In other words, none of them suffered from obesity or dystrophy. Moreover, the diet of such a child for a certain period of time included all the fats, proteins, carbohydrates and microelements necessary for the growing organism. It could seem that the baby eats according to exact scientific recommendations.
And the last. Clara Davis was faced with the fact that children’s food choices were constantly changing. So, for example, the kid could live on cereals for several days, then he proceeded to intensive use of meat products, then switched to vegetables. In other words, the child intuitively accurately determined what substances he lacked at the moment, and actively absorbed the food in which they were contained in large quantities.
Therefore, dear parents, trust your baby.
If your child refused porridge at any meal, but ate a double, or even triple portion of vegetable salad, do not make this tragedy, it means that the substances that are contained in the salad are simply vital for this moment. It may be difficult for you to come to terms with this circumstance, since it seems that the baby is not full. However, for the sake of the child’s health, both physical and psychological, it will be necessary to somewhat reconsider his views on nutrition.
As you know, a person has an intuitive knowledge of what is useful to him. That is why listen more carefully to your child.
At the same time, it is very important for parents to know what constitutes healthy food. So, for example, if you begin to feed your baby exclusively with sweets, guided by his desires, which are distorted in early childhood due to the frequent offer of sweets to him, then this will hardly do him good.
Once a woman came to me at the reception, the mother of a five-year-old girl, who complained that her daughter practically did not eat dishes to which sugar was not added. Before she ate a few spoons of porridge or soup, parents had to put on the table a lot of sweets or prepare dishes with a sweet taste in advance. Sometimes it came to the point that she demanded to sweeten her soup. The baby in the family was the only and long-awaited, so all her whims were carried out without question.
The little tyrant used her parental love with might and main, so she regularly ate sweets, chocolates and cookies. Of course, this circumstance could not but affect her figure. It still didn’t come to overweight, but the girl looked quite plump. Of course, first of all, serious changes in the behavior of parents were required. I advised the mother to treat her daughter a little more strictly: if she refuses to eat without due, in her opinion, remuneration, do not insist, but simply remove the plate before the next feeding, eliminating as much as possible different snacks between meals. In addition, parents should work with the character of her daughter, try to instill in her an objective self-esteem. But the parents were able to get rid of the whims of the child forever only when the girl had to be left with a large relative for a while. Here, no one indulged her desires, so she soon became accustomed to build normal relationships with others. Therefore, when the parents returned, they did not recognize their children, who had forgotten about all their old ways.
Some parents face the problem of playing at the table. The kid, having barely learned to act with a spoon, suddenly begins to eat little, devoting most of his time to playing with food, with a spoon, a cup and other cutlery. This happens primarily because he is no longer as hungry as at the very beginning of feeding.
One day, the mother of a two-year-old baby approached me, who complained that each feeding ends with the child running away from her, and she walks with him with a plate and a spoon, feeding him another batch of food at the right moment. During the conversation, it turned out that at first the baby eats on its own, as it saturates, it starts playing with objects lying on the table, and then generally gets up on the high chair or runs out from the table. I advised the mother to stop feeding the child and generally remove the food from the table as soon as he begins to indulge. It means that at this moment he partially or completely satisfied his hunger, therefore one should not force-feed him.
As soon as the child stops paying attention to the food in front of him, we can assume that he has eaten enough. Despite some disagreement with my recommendations (the mother thought that the baby should definitely eat the entire portion without a trace), the boy’s parents still began to clean the plate with food as soon as he started playing at the table and spinning. As a result, the child soon realized that at the first signs of pampering food was taken away, so he began to eat better. In addition, the boy had the opportunity to establish the portion of the portion he needed for saturation, so by the next feeding he managed to get hungry so much that his parents had less and less problems with his appetite.
If your baby starts to act up, demanding a plate of food back when you remove it from the table, give him another opportunity to eat. The main thing in this case – to maintain patience and endurance. Calmly explain to him that food should not be played, for this there are toys. When the child turns away from the plate again, remove the rest and try to switch his attention to something else.
Teach your child to the fact that as soon as he is saturated, the food is immediately removed until the next meal. You should not feed him later, as you only interrupt his appetite.
If the baby first refused to eat, and then became very hungry, feed him a little earlier than the prescribed time. Surely he will gladly eat everything you offer him. If the child leaves the food on the plate again, it means that he already had enough eaten. And you should reconsider children’s portions. Perhaps you are putting too much food on him for one meal, and only because of this you have various problems related to the nutrition of the child.
From early childhood, give your child the opportunity to choose a diet and decide for himself how much food he needs. At the same time, try to exclude products that are not only useless, but even harmful for a growing organism, especially in large quantities. Then your baby without errors will be able to properly form your diet and get all the necessary substances for life.
How to make interesting the process of absorption of food.
Sometimes in life there are situations when a child is unknown reasons bad eating. Some children sometimes have such aversion to food that they don’t eat anything at all during the day. Such a “diet” can even lead to a hungry faint. In such a situation, it is necessary to somehow influence the baby, for example, to make food more attractive and interesting.
In the process of feeding, you can play with the baby using various podeshki or small tales. So, for example, if you have two children with a small difference in age, tell them a fairy tale in which two heroes will be competing with each other during meals, for example, about two monkeys.
“Two monkeys lived on one green island. The storm that hit the island, took the parents of monkeys in the open sea, and they were left alone. When the monkeys got hungry, they jumped for a long time over the trees until they found a palm tree on which delicious and fragrant bananas grew. Monkeys pounced on bananas. “Am,” said one monkey. “Am,” echoed the other. What monkey will eat more bananas? (At this moment you must deftly send the portions of food to the babies’ mouths or make sure that they eat on their own.) Finally, the monkeys ate and thought that life was beautiful, so you can frolic and play for pleasure. ”
The plot of the tale can evolve from feeding to feeding. The main characters will get into the most incredible situations and, most importantly, with honor out of them. A child fascinated by a fairy tale will surely automatically send a spoon for a spoon in his mouth.
But this method has its drawbacks: the baby is distracted from the meal itself. Enchanted listening to stories, the child is simply unable to fully experience the taste of food, which to some extent interferes with the digestive process.
As you noticed, the element of rivalry was used in the tale. The child, trying to get ahead of the companion and get the deserved praise, seeks to cope with his portion as quickly as possible. Of course, this greatly helps with feeding, when two or three babies grow in the family. And what if the child is the only one? In this case, you can invite to the table the friends of your baby or one of the household members. In addition, the joint meal in itself is attractive to the child, because it allows once again to communicate with friends.
Good results are obtained by using the puppet theater in the feeding process. Do not rush to acquire a lot of dolls, just one is enough, which will talk to the baby, play different scenes and even feed. As a rule, the child, getting used to not listening to the parents (due to their wrong approach to upbringing), is happy to fulfill all the recommendations of this or that fantastic hero. The main thing is that the one who plays the role of a puppeteer, carefully hid behind the table or behind a screen and the doll appeared only when the child sits down at the table. At other times, it should be carefully hidden. Otherwise, the baby may experience stress by discovering one fine moment instead of a living doll, to which he was accustomed, the head of a favorite hero with a piece of cloth.
When the child grows up and the meals will not cause him disgust, puppet shows during the meal can be stopped, saying that the main character went to other kids who need help, since he was convinced of the ability of Sasha or Nastya to eat on his own.
In using dolls to form a child’s persistent interest in food intake, as in everything, measure should be observed.
Often you can find a situation when the whole family is going to feed the baby. Mom, for example, brings a full spoon to the child’s mouth, dad, grandmother and grandfather play real puppet shows, if only the baby looks at some moment and loses vigilance, and mom managed to send him another spoon. Of course, such events, and even three or four times a day, are quite tiresome. Wouldn’t it be better to let the baby go hungry and let him choose what he wants to eat, rather than spend so much time and effort on feeding alone?
Theatrical dolls are superbly replaced by ordinary toys. At the table with your child you can put his favorite toy – a teddy bear or a doll. The feeding process in this case is constructed in two ways. An empty plate is placed in front of the toy, and either the child tries to “feed” his pet, or you bring the spoon in turns to the child, then to the toy. Be sure to praise the dish offered to the kid, convince him that, for example, the bear very much liked the bear, so he asks you for a supplement. Praise the child if he is independent and tries to eat or treat the toy himself. With older children, you can come up with fun names for each dish.
In feeding the child is very important personal example of the parents. If you have a tradition in your family for every lunch, breakfast and dinner to gather the whole family, do not deprive the kid of the pleasure to sit and eat with everyone. Seeing how adults with pleasure, praising the hostess, eat, he will surely reach for a spoon. On the other hand, never show with him your dissatisfaction with one or another dish. Watching the squeamish expression of the face of his father or mother, the baby will soon imitate them, so one should not be surprised if he refuses one day to eat what caused the negative reaction of the parents.
In other words, if you want your child to eat well and not have a sharp disgust for this or that dish, you must first of all watch your mood and attitude to food in general and this or that dish in particular. Only then can you develop an adequate response from the baby to any healthy food.
Of great importance is the aesthetic design of food. If the dish is served on a beautiful plate, decorated, and even exudes a surprisingly delicious aroma, then, even without a proper appetite, the kid will undoubtedly be happy to eat everything offered. But the unattractive type of food that repels, and the more dirty dishes can once and for all cause the child aversion to a particular food. Therefore, each meal should be a holiday not only for the stomach, but also for the eyes.
Suggest your child to set the table: roll the napkins nicely, arrange the devices correctly. Moreover, you can make a real surprise for your family together with the baby by making various figures, candy bowls and vases from paper in origami style, cutting out various napkins from colored paper and using it all to decorate the table. Surely all these preparations will help the child to tune in for the upcoming meal, will raise his spirits and allow him to feel his importance, because he, as an adult, participates in the common cause. Sure, you can not do these holidays every day, but the memories of this event will long remain in the memory of your child, and his appetite will significantly improve.
From the age of one and a half, children are quite capable of making their own possible contribution to preparing the table for eating, transferring unbreakable objects and non-sharp appliances from the sideboard.
Be sure to praise your baby for the help he provides you. Then any meal will be painted for him in light, bright colors. In addition, if the baby feels respect and support from adults, he will be treated like an adult, he will quickly lose the desire to be capricious. Especially since a child with normal self-esteem and self-esteem, as a rule, has no problems with food intake.
Probably, from childhood, everyone knows the slogan: “When I eat, I am deaf and dumb!” To some extent, it is convenient, since it excludes the possibility of choking during a conversation while eating. However, it should be noted that our ancestors held a completely different opinion. Meal was for them an extra reason for conversation. This, on the one hand, allowed to once again communicate with family and friends, to tune in a benevolent mood, on the other – excluded any rush. During the smoothly flowing conversation, food was chewing slowly and carefully. Perhaps that is why people have less problems with digestion than now, when almost any food intake is carried out “on the run.”
Do not rush your child, do not try as quickly as possible to push into him a fair amount of all kinds of food. Your joint meals should be accompanied by a calm conversation. Thus, the child will positively tune in to food, because it is at this time that he can learn many interesting things from his relatives and speak on an equal footing with the older members of the family. Be sure that such meals have a beneficial effect on both its digestion and psyche.
To stimulate the interest of the child to food, you can attract him to the direct preparation of certain dishes. Of course, you can hardly entrust the child with any complicated operations in the kitchen, however, he is able to make a reasonable contribution to this difficult task. So, a four-year-old baby can wash potatoes perfectly, make patties or cut out cookies. The main thing is to praise him for his zeal, even if he didn’t succeed, because the main thing is not the result, but his desire to help you and the preparation for the meal itself.
Of course, the active participation of the child in cooking can create a lot of unnecessary problems for the mother or grandmother. However, if you want your baby to have a wonderful appetite and develop well, you will have to make some sacrifices. In addition, every day the child will get better and better, so pretty soon you will get in his face a great helper.
Thus, temporary inconvenience can bring quite effective results: good baby’s appetite and its accelerated development, since operations in the kitchen require a certain effort of will and mental expenses.
Already at the table, when all the representatives of the family gather, be sure to pay attention to the fact that the child took part in the preparation of a particular dish. Universal surprise and praise will help him feel his need and importance. In addition, under the admired views of relatives, he will not be able to abandon the food, in the preparation of which he himself participated.
It has long been observed that a child begins to eat much better when he learns to eat on his own. Perhaps it is just interesting for him to master a new subject – a spoon, and also to some extent join the world of adults. Of course, this is not such a simple task as it may seem to an adult, so in the first days after the baby learns to hold a spoon, each feeding will surely be accompanied by soiled clothes and food pieces scattered throughout the room.
Have patience, because of how quickly the baby learns to eat on its own, depends on his desire to eat all the food offered, and even his mental development.
The child should try his hand at this matter as soon as possible, because the faster he picks up the spoon, the faster he learns to use this device, the less problems you will have with feeding. Yes, you will, willy-nilly, have to face some kind of difficulties, but the results will meet your expectations: your baby’s appetite will definitely improve.
As soon as the child learns to eat his own dish in 10-15 minutes, you should refuse to feed him with a spoon. Sometimes parents themselves do not allow the baby to take the initiative, fearing for cleanliness in the house. And now he reaches two years of age and has time to get used to the fact that he is fed, and suddenly he is handed a spoon and they demand that he eat independently! Of course, this turn of events creates a lot of problems for him. The kid is naughty, does not want to eat with a spoon, loses his appetite. Tension appears in the child’s relationship with his parents. In most cases, everything ends with the fact that the mother or father does not stand up and again begins to feed the baby with a spoon. But this is not worth doing. If for one reason or another you missed the moment when the child reached for the spoon, try to teach him how to use the device. You may first have to help the child get the spoon to the mouth. Gradually, the baby will get better and better, and after a while he will be able to cope with the food on his own. At that moment, when the child tries to eat himself, it is very important for parents to remain calm, patiently directing his hand, otherwise with sudden movements or shouting, you can unwittingly arouse the child aversion to this or that food.
Probably the most effective way to keep the child’s appetite is to be attentive to all his food desires and not to stop him from deciding what he wants. Even if he gives preference to any one dish and doesn’t touch the other at all, we shouldn’t sound the alarm, most likely, his tastes will change after some time. Your main task is to provide your baby a varied and nutritious diet.
Often, parents simply do not know what to do when a baby tightly compresses lips and turns away from the food offered to him. Many do not stand up and go to violent methods, usually leading to the fact that the child begins to feel disgust for a certain type of food. And after this, the problems associated with the psyche of the child, his self-esteem, can begin.
I hope this edition will help you avoid such troubles, will indicate an acceptable way out of any difficult situation, one way or another connected with food. Your baby is certainly worth more than constant threats and prodding, so try to find the key to your child, which will allow you not to have problems with his feeding, save time and effort. The recommendations presented in this book will help you in the first place to get rid of unnecessary worries, review some of your views on the process of nutrition, as well as find those tools and methods that would interest your child to eat, reduce or eliminate the likelihood of occurrence. aversion to certain dishes.